By Mohamed Abdulrahman.
John Juma (not his real name) is an alcoholic anonymous member at Bandari Clinic. He walks in to a calm room that is reserved for counseling sessions. Today is not a normal counseling day for Juma as he expects to pour out his heart to the avid readers of the Bandari Newsletter.
Sister Salome Wasike a senior counselor at the clinic trails Juma as he puts up a straight face. He walks to the centre of the room where a large conference table dwarfs the interior of the supposedly spacious room. He pulls a chair and sits right across me.
Although his face is not too animated, a look of passion juts out of Juma’s dark piercing eyes as he stares at me, he looks timid at first rubbing his hand over his crinkled black hair while labouring to say hello.
I oblige to the greetings as Sister Wasike beckons me to start the interview whilst securing the freshly painted door of the less known about a counseling room. The bang of the door sets the tempo of the dialogue.
Juma is suddenly filled with anguish as he starts narrating his past ordeal to me.
“I am a 38 year old man married with 2 children, 12 year old son and a 6 year old daughter. Coming from a Christian family, I grew up as a cultured young man adored by villagers in the sloppy terrains of Kakamega County.
Juma is a recovering alcohol dependent, he had abused alcohol for fifteen years before Bandari clinic counselors came to his rescue.
He attended Kakamega Primary School and later on did his ‘O’ levels in 1996, after which he was able to secure a job at Kenya Ports Authority as a Clerk at the Conventional Cargo.
Just like any other person out there seeking employment, he had big dreams of a prosperous future. He saw himself saving money, assisting his parents, building a mansion, owning the latest car and buying plots that he would later on develop.
All this came to stand still when he made friends with some of his colleagues at the work place.
“One day as I was assisting my wife to run errands for the family, my friends asked me to join them for a drink as we watched soccer.” He narrated.
Juma is a big fan of Arsenal and since he could not afford the exorbitant monthly subscription of pay television; he made it a daily routine to walk to the bar on weekends where the bait of alcoholism lied in wait.
Time went by as he became faithful to his drink and addicted to peer pressure. He remembers the many occasions his friends would tease him – wewe umekaliwa na mke wako, loosely translated as – your wife dominates family decisions.
It was so humiliating and to prove that he was an independent man, Juma went farther to neglect his duties as a family man.
“It has been years since I found myself in this state. I have missed my matrimonial duties and failed to cater for their daily needs”. He reveals.
Juma’s salary was for quenching his thirst and when it got finished, he would borrow from friends. Drinking was now part of him as he had become a heavy drinker.
This means he had to drink in the morning before going to work and in the evenings after work. This well explains the enormous warning letters he got for his chronic absenteeism and incompetence at work.
According to his wife, it has been a brave battle having a drunkard for a husband and a father figure for their two children. She went out of her way to bring up the children on her own, her low income notwithstanding.
She was scared that her son will not have someone to look up to and the daughter would grow loathing marriage especially from the physical and emotional turmoil they went through.
Having great faith in her husband, she stood by him hoping that things would be better. For several months, Juma’s neighbours shared their food with his children and wife. There was not enough to cater for their daily needs as things had moved from bad to worse.
In his escapades of merry making, Juma would wake up from a blackout the following day only to hear some humiliating stories about what he did the previous night.
“I definitely had a reputation, and it was not a good one” he continues visibly showing the tormented man he was, reaching the apex of his predicament.
He had an urge to stop but was paralyzed by fear of so many forms. He experienced hallucinations which made him almost insane. He would wake up in the middle of the night wielding a machete and lashing it in different directions thinking he was fighting with monsters.
One day he decided to quit for 48 hours before he got back at it. Asked why he reverted back, he said he used to fight demons at night whenever he slept.
At one point he would scream his lungs out for help when he heard voices in his head. The sheer horrors faced by Juma are what doctors call withdrawal effects.
A glimpse at Sister Wesike gave satisfaction that all was now well with Juma and as a Clinic, they were willing to go even farther to assist others like Juma. At this juncture, Sister Wasike briefly gives an overview of the problems associated with alcohol.
“From the first sip, alcohol is absorbed into the bloodstream and reaches the brain. Although you won’t be aware of it, there is an impairment of brain function which deteriorates farther the more you drink.” says Sister Wasike.
“The first glass on the first day makes you ‘high’, on the second day you’ll need two glasses to reach that ‘highness’ and on and on” she says.
According to her, alcohol tolerance is increased by regular drinking. This reduced sensitivity requires that higher quantities of alcohol be consumed in order to achieve the same initial effects, before tolerance was established.
It is at this moment that Bandari doctors intervened and Juma was sent to rehabilitation where he responded well to treatment after three weeks.
A sigh of relief suddenly engulfed Juma who raised his right hand capturing my attention. He showed me a colorful wrist ribbon given to him by the Head of Medical Services, Dr. Gome Lenga. It is the ultimate price for alcoholic anonymous members. Juma has been clean from alcohol for six months at the time of the interview.
For the first time, Juma looked at the price of alcohol played in his life saying never again. But that notwithstanding, a warped period in his life, Juma had reconciled with his wife and children and is a regular attendant of church having become a born again man- from alcohol and from the drink.
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